Q Parents, siblings, teachers and peers contribute to the development of your self-concept and self esteem through their messages to you about who you are and who you will become. and Who in your early development influenced the person you are today? What positive or negative appraisals have most influenced your self-concept? A lot of people with low self-esteem struggle with the desire to please someone who cannot be pleased. I encourage them (and you if you want to have some fun) to make four lists to guide you.  People whose approval you need. People whose approval would be nice to have. People whose approval does not matter. People whose approval.. if you have it you ought to be worried.